posted by admin on Feb 22
There’s been a great deal of publicity lately about the negative effects of divorce on children. Scientific research results vary from studies that conclude children can be seriously damaged to those studies that conclude children tend to be just fine. Having dealt with many divorced families in a research setting for decades, she is able to give very helpful, specific advice for how to help kids who are troubled by a divorce develop coping skills. Her writings and lectures are also ripe with helpful information about specific things parents can do to minimize damage to their children and older teens, particulary if they are showing signs of stuggling with connections to future romantic partners.
Many of these children become aligned with only one parent so they become less anxious and insecure. This is a factor in alienated children, those children who feel that they can’t have a relationship with both parents because they can’t handle the stress. Divorced children frequently feel that they have failed or blame themselves when their parents stay in conflict, and they feel even more insecure when they can’t prevent the arguments.